Relationships Still More
So still building on the basic
theme of relationships from the past couple of weeks. One thing that can define
relationship is being a friend and I am reminded of the words of Jesus, where
He said: “Greater love has no man then this that a man lay down his life for
his friends” (John 15:13) But love is often hard to define and sort out in our
lives. We often talk about falling in love, falling out of love. Yet the great
commandment according to Jesus is twofold: Love God with all you are and Love
your neighbour as yourself. (paraphrase according to Jon)
So that gets me to thinking
perhaps love in a relationship is not an accident, it is not something we fall
in or out of at a whim. Rather I think it is a choice, it is something we
decide to do. We make friends based on our likes and dislikes and from there
our relationship grows or falls apart based on the in common things. Sadly
where I started a couple of weeks back is that of ‘Vines that Choke the Life
Out’ of relationships and how easy it is for little things to grow into bigger
things and suddenly best friends are fighting with each other.
Well I think perhaps marriage should
be the foundational basis of society and yet we have lost our way with what it
is about or how it should function in our world. But sadly for too many
marriage is now a thing of the past and there is much confusion about it.
The way it is presented these
days is that it is something two people do if they love each other. But this
was not the origin of the way it worked or how it should work. Yes, love is a
factor, or should be at some point since the command in Ephesians is; “Husbands
love your wives, even as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for it...” So
we see again a command to love, a choice that has to or should be made. But if
love is the basis and people don’t choose to love then small wonder marriage is
in such trouble. The reality is we are to be doing marriage to picture what
Christ did when He died as a sacrifice for us. If we did marriage as a 100%
commitment, a 100% sacrifice, it changes everything. Relationship then matters
in a way much different than our normal starting point.
The thing is, marriage is hard,
relationship is hard, but there are answers out there. But as I am learning it
takes time to learn the lessons and sometimes, well too many times, we wait
till it is too late to get help or to find a way forward. That is where I don’t
have all the answers but I know the Guy who does and with a wee bit of ‘want to’
on our part, He can help us build relationship right.
Things are looking up,
Rev. Jon Bergen
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